I was telling some friends the other day that they need to keep their crazy on the down low for the first 4 or so dates with a girl and slowly ease her into it. I said this with love as we all have quarks and oddities. You shouldnt hide these things from people but you also shouldnt show all your crazy on a first date. Having said that I do appreciate that on a 2nd date last night, the guy showed me a number of bad habits and craziness, as now I know he and I just really wont get along.
I went on a first date with this guy a couple of weeks ago. I had some reservations about a 2nd date with him as he has a kid, which is kinda a big thing with me, and he spent half an hour on our first date trashing his ex-wife. Maybe she deserved to be trashed, but he has been divorced a year so it’s time to let that shit go already. In the two weeks between the first and second date he has come off as a little stalkerish and desperate. Little things like commenting on a bunch of my photos on Match, and sending me an IM on match with things like “fancy seeing you on here” when we both happened to be logged in.
In any case, I gave him a 2nd date as he seemed like a nice guy, even if a little over obsessive about stuff. He took me to dinner for our 2nd date and the whole night turned out to be a series of weird and what not. When you read something and don’t retain any of the information, you have reading comprehension problems. Well this guy had verbal comprehension problems. At one point in the date the subject of siblings came up and I told him ‘my dad had all girls, so I just have sisters’. The next question out of his mouth was, “So how many brothers do you have?” No joke. The whole night was like that where I would tell him something and the next words out of his mouth would be some question that showed that he hadn’t retained a single word I had just said. When he wasn’t not listening to me he was asking me really awkward and weird questions.
At one point in the evening he grilled me on how many dates I have been going on and how many people contact me on the dating sites. I get curiosity and that’s ok, but this was full on grilling like he wanted to know just how much competition he had. The night took an even bigger turn for the weird when he tried to convince me that the planes crashing into the Twin Towers on 9/11 were a big government conspiracy. Apparently he saw some videos on the internet and is now convinced. Because we all know that videos on the internet are 100% reliable and never doctored or faked. I didn’t dare bring up the moon landings or anything like that as I wasnt sure if that would work him up any more than he already was. This would be the point where I would have made excuses and ended the date, but we were only an hour in and he had bought me dinner so I felt like I needed to give him at least a little more time before I ducked out.
The whole rest of the evening went pretty much as expected with him not listening to anything I said and injecting strange questions into the middle of me talking just to show me how much he wasnt listening. Thankfully he tucked most of his crazy back in after we got off the 9/11 topic but I got a good enough glimpse at it to know I really really don’t want a 3rd date with this guy.